'why does no one like me?' // Wednesday, July 13, 2016
i am not talking about myself. but sometimes i hear about people who say that they are alone and that no one likes them. talking like that wouldn't get anyone any accompany - that's all i can say. self-pity does not get you stuff you want by saying that you're not worthy. i used to say that too when i was in my teens. i had a bad past filled with bullying and people not liking me. however i was not complaining about it to anyone, because they may or may not have had a reason. now that i think about it, i was the easy victim and that was the reason why i was an easy victim of bullying.
people who think that they never get bullied don't know anything. their asshole qualities wouldn't work well in the future if they tell someone in a job interview that they used to bully people who were weaker at school.
okay, back to the 'not liking' part. think about your quirks, think about WHY you have people not liking you. you say to yourself you didn't do anything? sometimes you don't know what you're doing. sometimes you hurt people without knowing. and this is the reason why people may avoid you - you hurt them and you don't know how or why.
i started to take my limits. sometimes i hurt some people and someone else told me that it was not okay and i apologized immediately. i told them that i have the awkward quirk of blurting my feelings out of nothing and not being aware of the consequences. people are sensitive these days, and sometimes i have to ask if it's ok to talk about a certain topic to not get anyone mad.
i don't gossip or vague post about someone because it's rude. as i said people are sensitive these days and you won't be aware about what you're talking about. someone gets to know that you talked bad about them and then they'll pay back to you, probably even in the same manner.
i am supposed to be a lone wolf but i still enjoy company by some people who really can click into. i could say that i don't need any friends but i wouldn't mind having one or two people being there for me if i need them. that being said i'm fine with anything. the people who are close to me are my friends; i would lay my hand in fire for them. sometimes i'm shy, sometimes i'm so open that people stick to me until now despite my flaws. i don't want to be flawless, it's boring. as long as people see me as a friend despite my flaws then i'm fine.
i am not lonely despite having a crush on a certain someone, because not having a lover doesn't make me lonely. friends are what i need. a lover would make the cherry of the cake, making an intense bond that's more intimate than friendship.
if you ever ask yourself why you're lonely, think about your flaws. if these flaws make it harder for you to get friends then work on them. get yourself help by a doctor if you don't have anyone supporting you; a therapist is even better. that's all what you need to make everything possible.
this post is not an answer of something, it's just something i want to let out because i have been talking to a friend about this topic. we talked about pasts. this is the summary about of talk and i'm willing to share it with you. じゃあ、また!
jam of the day
'why does no one like me?' // Wednesday, July 13, 2016
i am not talking about myself. but sometimes i hear about people who say that they are alone and that no one likes them. talking like that wouldn't get anyone any accompany - that's all i can say. self-pity does not get you stuff you want by saying that you're not worthy. i used to say that too when i was in my teens. i had a bad past filled with bullying and people not liking me. however i was not complaining about it to anyone, because they may or may not have had a reason. now that i think about it, i was the easy victim and that was the reason why i was an easy victim of bullying.
people who think that they never get bullied don't know anything. their asshole qualities wouldn't work well in the future if they tell someone in a job interview that they used to bully people who were weaker at school.
okay, back to the 'not liking' part. think about your quirks, think about WHY you have people not liking you. you say to yourself you didn't do anything? sometimes you don't know what you're doing. sometimes you hurt people without knowing. and this is the reason why people may avoid you - you hurt them and you don't know how or why.
i started to take my limits. sometimes i hurt some people and someone else told me that it was not okay and i apologized immediately. i told them that i have the awkward quirk of blurting my feelings out of nothing and not being aware of the consequences. people are sensitive these days, and sometimes i have to ask if it's ok to talk about a certain topic to not get anyone mad.
i don't gossip or vague post about someone because it's rude. as i said people are sensitive these days and you won't be aware about what you're talking about. someone gets to know that you talked bad about them and then they'll pay back to you, probably even in the same manner.
i am supposed to be a lone wolf but i still enjoy company by some people who really can click into. i could say that i don't need any friends but i wouldn't mind having one or two people being there for me if i need them. that being said i'm fine with anything. the people who are close to me are my friends; i would lay my hand in fire for them. sometimes i'm shy, sometimes i'm so open that people stick to me until now despite my flaws. i don't want to be flawless, it's boring. as long as people see me as a friend despite my flaws then i'm fine.
i am not lonely despite having a crush on a certain someone, because not having a lover doesn't make me lonely. friends are what i need. a lover would make the cherry of the cake, making an intense bond that's more intimate than friendship.
if you ever ask yourself why you're lonely, think about your flaws. if these flaws make it harder for you to get friends then work on them. get yourself help by a doctor if you don't have anyone supporting you; a therapist is even better. that's all what you need to make everything possible.
this post is not an answer of something, it's just something i want to let out because i have been talking to a friend about this topic. we talked about pasts. this is the summary about of talk and i'm willing to share it with you. じゃあ、また!
jam of the day
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a prince that goes by kano. 23 years old. germany.
agender. he/them pronouns. media design sophomore.
single. asexual panromantic. infp & melancholic.
i am not talking about myself. but sometimes i hear about people who say that they are alone and that no one likes them. talking like that wouldn't get anyone any accompany - that's all i can say. self-pity does not get you stuff you want by saying that you're not worthy. i used to say that too when i was in my teens. i had a bad past filled with bullying and people not liking me. however i was not complaining about it to anyone, because they may or may not have had a reason. now that i think about it, i was the easy victim and that was the reason why i was an easy victim of bullying.
